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Asking for help

January 17, 2012 by Amelia

I’d much rather give help than ask for it. I suppose it’s part pride, part not wanting to be a burden or a bother.

Yesterday morning I had a mini-meltdown. I was overwhelmed with my book project, laundry, dishes, and a five-year-old who does not go to school everyday and especially misses his sister on Mondays. By noon, I had resigned myself that I might not get to write a single word that day. I felt like a horrible mom to keep saying, “Not right now. Please, just give me 20 minutes to finish this stuff!” With the pressure of a looming deadline, I did what any reasonable woman does. I sat down for a little cry.

In the midst of my tears I felt God speak to my spirit, “You’re wasting time with this little pity party. Ask for help.”

I sat up, still sniffling, and began to pray. I confessed that I cannot do these things alone. I cannot be a writer/mother/wife/Bible Study Fellowship leader and do any of them well without God’s help.

Then I felt God whisper, “Keep going. You know what’s next.”

I choked down my pride and sent my in-laws an e-mail asking if there might be any Mondays that they would have free for T-Rex to hang out with them. Within a couple hours, we had worked out a schedule for the next few Mondays. I know that T-Rex and Papa will both have fun making memories.

I felt peace for the first time that day, and I began to relax. I finished the chores. I built a fort that took up the entire living room. I played sword fight on the Wii and let T-Rex win (don’t tell him!). We even worked on his letters and numbers.

Then my sister-in-law showed up with soup for dinner. She has four kids aged 3 and under. I should be the one making her dinner! Yet she insists that to make a little extra for us is no big deal. It’s a big deal to me.

Another friend sent me a message just to stay she prayed for me and my family that day. This time, the tears were out of thankfulness for the blessings I knew I did not deserve.

I asked for help. I received way more than I asked for. And somewhere in the course of that day, I wrote 1/4 of a chapter, and I didn’t even stay up past 11 p.m!

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  1. Lisa says

    January 18, 2012 at 7:48 am

    Morning Amelia!

    I can totally relate! I don’t have any writing projects right now, but when I have an article I’m working on, or the to-do list starts to get longer w/ other responsibilities I get really discouraged and overwhelmed…It starts to make me wonder why I even bother trying to pursue anything outside of taking care of kids and the house, but I know that is not the right attitude.

    Good for you for asking for help. I will pray that God give you continued space for your writing (and energy and ideas!) and the wisdom to find help when you need it.

    All of these days are a part of his plan…keep looking upwards!!

  2. Jen Griffin says

    January 18, 2012 at 11:42 am

    Hang in there friend! I’m glad you have family that loves and cares for you. The best thing was just taking time to play and have some fun with T. I know he enjoyed it too! I’m not writing a book but, I know how distracted I can get with things and with my house, home schooling, etc. It’s good to cry sometimes! There is a sweet release that come from tears. Healing. Praying today is a good one!

  3. admin says

    January 18, 2012 at 3:02 pm

    Lisa, Thank you so much! It’s nice to know I’m not alone! Sometimes I too wonder why I “have” to do this, in why I have this passion and drive. I always come back to the same answer, it comes from God and HE is the one who equips me!

    Jen, You are so right. I enjoyed playing with him even more than usual that day. I think God blessed the little writing time I did have then after that! No matter what our situation, mothers have this continual pull in so many directions. Thanks for the encouragement!

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